just wanna share what I read :)

hello readers.. Iwani is here
again.. well, straight to the topic..
I currently reading a book from Gary Chapman. his book title's is The Five Love Languages. here are some summary from the book I read.. enjoy. ;)

[1] Words of Affirmation ==> this is when you say how nice your couple looks, or how great the dinner tasted. these words will also build your mate's self image and confidence..

[2] Quality Time ==> some couples believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. if this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.

[3] Gifts ==> it is universal in human cultures to give gifts. they don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. couples who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a couple who feels neglected and unloved.

[4] Acts of Service ==> discovering how you can best do something for your couple will require time and creativity. these acts of service like vacuuming, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.

[5] Physical Touch ==> sometimes just stroking your couple's back holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.

simple? keep reading..

how to know your own love language? the answer is simple, just ask yourself with this questions ;
- how do I express love to others?
- what do I complain about the most?
- what do I request most often?

connecting in your partner's love language probably won't be natural for you. Gary Chapman says, "we're not talking comfort. we're talking love. love is something we do for someone else. so often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. they are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."

in this book Gary Chapman recommends that we have a "Tank Check" 3 nights a week for 3 weeks. ask one another "how is your love tank tonight?" if, on a scale from zero to ten, it is less than 10, then ask your partner "what can I do to help fill it?"

so I hope you guys enjoy reading it.. you don't get enough? I suggest you to find that book :D adios!

p.s ; sayang!! you should read this book after me ;) I love you..